So a friend of love one has just been diagnose with Cancer. Its one of those times in our lives we either develop foot in mouth disease or don't know what to say or how to act around the person. Whatever you do don't run away or avoid the subject. The person who has just been diagnosed or waiting for a diagnoses is terrified and has some many questions. You are not the person to answer them. Your job is to be a friend or love one. Your role in there lives does not suddenly dramaticily change because their life has.
Here's a blog I just came across that may help guide you to support your love one. A Diagnoses of Cancer! What to say Please remember every women's journey is different. Their treatment options will be different, there access to medical services will be different depending on whether they have health insurance and where the live. Your love one might need to travel to access the medical care she needs further isolating here in the journey. She may have dependent children and her fears may focus of them. Let her be your guide to the areas in her life where she wants you support. Ask! Don't take what control she has. Would it help if I did the shopping? Can I baby sit while you have a night out? These may not be things she wants or needs. The best thing you can do is listen. If your still not sure get some advice. There is support for you as someone who is supporting a loved one. Get informed. Read what other women have been through. Seek information for reliable sources for yourself not to pass on to the person you are seeking to support. The journey is as individual as they are as a person. What helped one person may not work for your love one. Be there! Listen! Know as much as possible about what's occurring medically and let them guide you as to how to care for them - well that's what I would do in your situation.
Here's a blog I just came across that may help guide you to support your love one. A Diagnoses of Cancer! What to say Please remember every women's journey is different. Their treatment options will be different, there access to medical services will be different depending on whether they have health insurance and where the live. Your love one might need to travel to access the medical care she needs further isolating here in the journey. She may have dependent children and her fears may focus of them. Let her be your guide to the areas in her life where she wants you support. Ask! Don't take what control she has. Would it help if I did the shopping? Can I baby sit while you have a night out? These may not be things she wants or needs. The best thing you can do is listen. If your still not sure get some advice. There is support for you as someone who is supporting a loved one. Get informed. Read what other women have been through. Seek information for reliable sources for yourself not to pass on to the person you are seeking to support. The journey is as individual as they are as a person. What helped one person may not work for your love one. Be there! Listen! Know as much as possible about what's occurring medically and let them guide you as to how to care for them - well that's what I would do in your situation.
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