OMG! It's Cancer!

So a friend of love one has just been diagnose with Cancer. Its one of those times in our lives we either develop foot in mouth disease or don't know what to say or how to act around the person. Whatever you do don't run away or avoid the subject. The person who has just been diagnosed or waiting for a diagnoses is terrified and has some many questions. You are not the person to answer them. Your job is to be a friend or love one. Your role in there lives does not suddenly dramaticily change because their life has.

Here's a blog I just came across that may help guide you to support your love one. A Diagnoses of Cancer! What to say Please remember every women's journey is different. Their treatment options will be different, there access to medical services will be different depending on whether they have health insurance and where the live. Your love one might need to travel to access the medical care she needs further isolating here in the journey. She may have dependent children and her fears may focus of them. Let her be your guide to the areas in her life where she wants you support. Ask! Don't take what control she has. Would it help if I did the shopping? Can I baby sit while you have a night out? These may not be things she wants or needs. The best thing you can do is listen. If your still not sure get some advice. There is support for you as someone who is supporting a loved one. Get informed. Read what other women have been through. Seek information for reliable sources for yourself not to pass on to the person you are seeking to support. The journey is as individual as they are as a person. What helped one person may not work for your love one. Be there! Listen! Know as much as possible about what's occurring medically and let them guide you as to how to care for them - well that's what I would do in your situation. 

One Ladies Courage to FIGHT LIKE A GIRL!

A story of inspiration for any young woman just diagnose with Breast Cancer. I fought like a girl. 

In her own words

Often we focus so much on the person who is diagnosed with cancer, we for it is not just there lives that have been turned up side down. We women being diagnosed at younger ages, the increase chances are they are still caring for young children. If we as adults struggle with a cancer diagnoses of a love one, who much does a child struggle and how much do the understand of what is going on. Hear are the words of a young gril

My Parents Have Cancer Poem

This is a link to a website design to support young people whoes parents have cancer. It is truly inspirational. 

Big Boys Do Cry

See http://canceraustralia.nbocc.org.au/our-organisation/campaigns/boys-do-cry

Why are we fighting?

She Smiles and She Laughs

She laughs,
and she smiles

Unaware of this thing

Growing inside.

Today she’s watching

Her daughter playing in the bath,

She laughs

And she smiles.

Not knowing,

She’ll never have another child,

Because already the cells

Have begun too divide.

She laughs,

And she smiles,

As she throws her head back,

Today the girls are hitting around of golf.

She’s unaware of the mass growing inside,

The cancer cells don’t repair

But they still divide and

Attach together like cement,  

She laughs

And she smiles,

As the girls have morning tea,

They laugh as children play on the swings,

Not knowing

Of the mass now

Growing rapidly inside,

Soon she won’t feel up to a cup tea.

She laughs

And still smiles,

Even though she feels tired,

She smiles at the little girl playing on the floor.

Unaware deadly cells

Have just pushed

Through the bowel wall

And there to they gather and begin to multiply.

She laughs

And she smiles,

As she peeps through the door,

She sees her girl playing in her room.

Still not knowing

Of the invader growing,

Inside her womb,

That killer is about to be announce,

She laughs

And she smiles,

Curled up in the arms of her man,

She’s been tired for days and doesn’t know why,

Unaware of the killer,

That’s been growing inside,

She pops to the loo,

And discovers these blood in the bowl,

She laughs it off,

And flashes her smile,

Coffee and cake,

Take her mind off it for a while,

Meanwhile the mass

That’s been growing inside,

Is trying to break and enters,

Into the lung.

Today there’s no laugher,

There’s been more blood in the bowl,

She cries so we don’t see her smile,

She’s been to the doctor and had lots of tests.

Now she knows of the masses inside,

The doctors think it started in an ovary,

It’s in her bowl and there’s a spot in the lung,

A full hysterectomy at the age of thirty-one,

Instead of her laugh,

We hear the anguish of her cry,

Tomorrow is her surgery,

She cries for two children she wanted one day.

She’s wheeled into surgery,

And the truth of her killer soon reveal,

They take out the uterus ovaries and all,

Sadly they’ve also taken her bowl.

She wakes and her smile breaks,

As she looks at the man that she loves,

Until they tell things just didn’t look good,

Today there’s no laugher, only tears in her eyes.

She’s had three months of radiation,

And almost a year of chemo on and off,

That spot on her lung has grown some more,

She cries as the doctors say they can do no more.

For a few more months she laughs with her daughter,

And smiles through the long days of pain,

She curls into the strong arms of her man,

She’s now just so weak.

She tries to hold her head up and laugh,

Instead all she can do is smile at her child,

Reflecting how much she’s grown,

As she plays with her father, on the front lawn.

The laugh is now silent,

No more I see her smile,

I can’t help these tears that roll down my face,

As I describe her laugh and the smile on her face.

Debbie Chilton Copyright (c) 2011

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Recycle Fashion Items 101

I took the plunge today! Umm! After removing 4 large garbage bags full of cloths and a box of shoes and handbags. my wardrobe still looks quiet full! I honestly don't know how I managed to fit all that stuff in my wardrobe! 


. . . So what did I put in my bags. Shoes, belts, handbags, jumpers, jeans, coats, tees, pants, long sleeve shirts and and dresses . . .


. . . Unless you have already done the same its your turn . . .

REMEMBER IF ITS STILL WEARABLE

BRING IT ALONG!

TO THE FASHION FRENZY

Your tops and your bottoms,

Your hats and yours shoes,

You no longer wear them

so what good are they to you?

Jeans that are too tight

or those old daggie dress,

Like your grandma wrote,

Do you still want to keep them just in case?

Can you be brave like me

and throw out that favorited Tee,

And give away the old fashion boots,

Give the flick cloths that no longer fit the kids. 

Bag them all up and bring them along,

Or you'll welcome to drop them to me,

Because on the night we'll be,

swapping and selling

bring and buying

Let's hope you score an outfit for free!

So Are You In?